Your Rise Begins Where Blame Ends

Behind this powerful image lies a truth I have seen again and again as a therapist. Most struggles my clients bring have someone else at the center. A friend. A partner. A child, A parent. A colleague. And with them, the belief: “They are the reason I feel this way.”

But every time we point one finger outward, the universe quietly folds three fingers back toward us a reminder that we cannot change anyone. We can only change ourselves!!

Life transforms the moment you take full responsibility for it. Until then, you spend your days blaming people, situations, and experiences for why you are not rising. You can’t always change the situation, but you can change yourself to stop giving others power over your peace.

Yes, some people can be difficult, but beneath their behavior is a burden of pain, fears, and emotional wounds that unconsciously guide their actions. That’s their personal journey, and they will face their struggles and resolve it in their own time. But are you being wise if you let someone else’s challenges affect the quality of your own life?

You always have a choice. You can continue to complain about why people don’t change, how they frustrate you, and how they make your life miserable. Or, you can choose a different path one where you stop giving others the power to control your emotions and your happiness. Instead, focus on what you can change - your mindset, your reactions, and your own growth. When you take responsibility for your inner world, you free yourself from the burden of waiting for others to change and open the door to true peace and empowerment. The choice is yours; remain stuck in frustration or step into your power and create the life you want.

Often, the people who annoy us or bring out the worst in us come into our lives as teachers, revealing our blind spots, highlighting what we need to learn, and showing us where we must grow. Just think about it; if life only gave us kind and easy people, how would we ever grow? It’s simple to be kind to those who are pleasant, but real growth happens when we can remain kind to those who aren’t. Most of the time, the real change happens when we learn to control and master our reactions to what others say and do. And that one shift can change everything.

No one can lift you out. No one can make you rise. It’s your journey. The climb is yours, the choice is yours, every time!

When you are ready to truly see this, the change is unstoppable. That’s the moment I help my clients reach and once they do, life is never the same again. #HumanTrilogy